‘The weekend presents itself as the toughest part of my week to navigate. 

 I get that Monday feeling on a Friday afternoon as I try and juggle the expectations and responsibilities that lay in the coming 72 hours. The Commodores classic 1970’s hit song, Easy like a Sunday morning, was on one of the first albums I ever bought. This jazz and soul compilation was indicative of my awkward, younger self desperately searching for who I really was.

 Every week, as the weekend approaches, the swaying vocals of ‘Easy like Sunday morning’ seem ever more distant and incompatible with my life now. As the parent of a child with complex needs, my week is upside down.

With ever shrinking appropriate short break provision and rejected requests for support, I am left juggling limited energy, the desire for quality family time, the need for rest, heightened expectations and just wanting a glimpse of normality for all our family.

 This series of images captured by Nicola Parry at 8am one Sunday morning as a part of a larger project share the reality of what ‘easy’ looks for families like mine.’ – Rachel



Photographer, Nicola Parry explains:

The aim of my project was to document the realities of an ‘everyday’ which for some, is a much greater struggle than for the rest of us.

I have taken away a great deal from my experience but most affecting has been the realization that the ‘difference’ I have observed is permanent. This is not a difference in terms of the love, fun and laughter, or in terms of nagging children to get their homework done and help out with chores; but in terms of the huge level of responsibility and necessity to be available, alert and organised every waking moment – as well as some moments when not awake. 

I hope my images will provoke thought and consideration and help to raise awareness of the secret lives of others.


For more about Rachel’s Secret Life and Nicola’s work, please see our previous post and visit Rachel’s blog and Nicola’s website and blog.